What are you thankful for this week?
· Photos are optional but encouraged.
· Check-ins remain open until the following week's post is shared.
· Do feel free to comment on others' check-ins but don't harsh anyone else's squee.

I have "make a public blog post" on my to-do list today, and I have nothing to talk about publicly, so you know what that means.

The World's Deadlist Addiction Is Popping Up on Brain Scans. And It's Not Even a Drug.

(PDF) The Biology of Human Survival: Life and Death in Extreme Environments

The Buddha's daughter: A young Tibetan-Chinese woman has an unprecedented role to play

Who Invented the High Five?

Double empathy problem (Relatedly: Autistic individuals are more prosocial towards strangers and people they barely know)

The disastrous voyage of Satoshi, the world's first cryptocurrency cruise ship

The Worst Magazine in America

The Cat's Maew: Thai Treatise on Auspicious Felines (19th Century)

Anatoly Moskvin (tw for child death)

These all have no common theme except they don't have much in common with the rest of the links I have saved. Which I need to go through and clean out, because I have saved a LOT but have been slacking on linkposting. Oops! Also, follow longreads . See ya!

I've commented in vsynthrecs and vampiremedia, and I'm seriously considering participating in moodthemeinayear next year, but not the yearly challenge -- probably a monthly one or the bingo -- but uhh. Hey, these are mostly the same comms I participated in last time! I hope next time will be different, LMAO.

This is probably related, so I'm going to talk/ask about my plans for the visual kei community here. If that seems like the kind of thing you'd be interested in, read more and vote in my poll here if you haven't already. I really do hate sounding like an attention-seeker, but, well... I kinda need a little attention right now xD I don't want this community to be dead on arrival, you know?
( Imagine me sitting at a large desk with my hands folded in front of me. )

There's a Cozy Fantasy Book Blast happening, and I picked up Good Neighbours by Stephanie Burgis, and Tsumiko and the Enslaved Fox by Forthright. Speaking of cozy, I had a conversation on the FaRo discord about project-hopping, because while I know I'll return to angsty paranormal romance in future projects and am committed to writing Book Two of Bloodhunt Academy right now, I need to have a cozy fantasy writing project ongoing alongside. The cozy dragon romantasy is what I'm eyeing right now. While they're two different vibes, I'm going to keep them on the same pen name (I looked at my collection of book ideas and realised I'm not a writer who can come up with similar things for long in the first place).
( We've been menstruating so many centuries, and yet. )
How does one go through life WITHOUT feminine rage? Given everything?

Hey everyone! My name is Leslie but I'm usually called Lilith online. Either works. I used to be on LiveJournal for years then fell away once Facebook became a thing. I am venturing back to LJ and I will also be posting here as well. I remember having really great connections on LJ and I am hoping to find that again.

Name:

 

Leslie aka Lilith. Either is fine.

Age:

45. I've always been an old soul and now my body is catching up.

I mostly post about:

I don't know yet. I think it's going to be mostly a diary kind of thing where I talk about my life and thoughts and dreams and goals and the nice stuff and the bad stuff. A little bit of everything that makes me ... me.

My hobbies are:

theater, acting, directing, doing tech, art, singing, writing, photography, anything NASA (I go to the Space Center a lot), thrifting, true crime, documentaries

My fandoms are:

Anything Broadway, Marvel, Wicked, paranormal shows, Star Wars, Harry Potter, Percy Jackson, Taylor Swift, etc

I'm looking to meet people who:

Are chill. Some things should be serious about some things, but also a sense of humor is great. I am very "woke" though. Please be aware I am "woke". I am also disabled and will talk about my illness and disability issues. And I am mom of an nonverbal son who is autistic and those subjects will come up. I am adult too so I'll bring up adult issues as well, like sex.

My posting schedule tends to be: daily/weekly/monthly/sporadic/etc

My goal is to post at least weekly, maybe twice a week. My illness can throw me for a loop and suddenly I can't sit up some days. So, it depends on my spoons.

When I add people, my dealbreakers are:

If you are conservative. We just won't connect or agree on things, and I am at the point in my life that I want peace. It's better to just move along. I'm also not Christian but I do have Christian friends, but I am not into Christian Nationalism. If you are, we won't be a good fit. I identify as pagan/witch. I'm also LGBTQIA+ and have a trans son.

Before adding me, you should know: I am unapologetically myself. I can be a strong personality and I will always say if I disagree with someone, but I won't be rude about it unless I am needing to match energy being thrown at me.

What are you thankful for this week?
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· Check-ins remain open until the following week's post is shared.
· Do feel free to comment on others' check-ins but don't harsh anyone else's squee.

Hi folks, I hope you all are doing well. Not good at doing these intro things, but I'll give it a try. I'm Lesley. I'm in my late thirties, happily married and I have one cat child. I love books of all types, I'm currently making my way through the Dungeon Crawler Carl books, Tv shows including The Golden girls, How I met your Mother, Grace and Frankie and others. I love all kinds of music, and I enjoy baking. I welcome people of all backgrounds and stuff, I'm a Christian myself. as for what I write about in here, To be honest, there's only one entry in here, but I plan on changing that. I will most likely write about daily life things, and sometimes about what I'm watching/reading/listening to as well as mental and physical health stuff. I am totally blind, so sometimes I will write about that. If there is anything else you wanna know, feel free to take a peak at the profile. I will be writing in here probably every few days to every week. Depends on the mood I'm in. I hope all of you have a good day, and if you celebrate them, happy holidays

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I was just wondering if there's anyone here, followers, mutuals, passers-by alike, who would be interested in a community where we share and comment on vkei* songs + MVs, and nothing else? No general discussion, because I shouldn't be allowed to moderate that. Touching the conversations I imagine could happen would be like touching hot coals, but if we stay laser-focused on discussing the music then it's fine. At the very least, there will likely be a monthly thread where people can ask for personalized reccs!

The more I think about the comm the more ideas I have for it in terms of little events/challenges and such, so yea. I got the idea because a server I'm in has a channel where people post music, but it irks me how fast it goes and how there's no organization, so for this comm I want songs/MVs to be tagged with the subgenre (ex. kurofuku, tanbi, kote, menhera) and sound (ex. rock, metal, punk, electronic). If the poster is unsure which tags to use they won't have to tag anything, because the mod(s) will do it... Ideally! I don't really know how the specifics of tags in communities work, so we'll see.

If the comm really does happen, then while it's small I can only imagine needing a music-obsessed co-mod for adding/editing sound tags. I'm still learning about genres of music, so while I want everything to be tagged properly I don't trust myself to get the sounds right. However, I don't want just anyone to be able to add tags, because the ensuing arguments might be wild.

Anyways, yea ^_^ Let me know if you're interested or have something else to say. I won't say the number out loud (digitally), but there is a certain amount of positive responses I need before I seriously work on this. And of course if this is a bad idea that everyone hates I would prefer not to waste my time trying it, LOL.



*The community won't be 100% visual kei. Some of my ideas for events/challenges, both unique and reoccurring, include sharing related scenes and genres. However, I do plan for events where we can share not-vkei songs to be shorter than the ones that are vkei-only. I've thought so much about this.

Is there an interesting story behind your username?
Not really. I love dandies. It's also my username in most places.

Location and language(s):
America, New Jersey. English (both American and RP), and learning Italian. I dabbled in Latin but not much.

Age range (e.g 20s, 30s, etc.):
I'm forty-two. I tend to get along better with those who are older than I, particularly seniors.

Hot button/deal breaker issues that will likely lead to unfriending:
Minors (I prefer at least over twenty-one), depression and/or anxiety (posted regularly), bad self-esteem, life drama, recreational drugs, religion or politics (posted regularly), a lot of bad grammar and spelling (unless you're learning English), and frequent obscenities.

Do you have an "About Me" post new friends can read to get a sense of who you are, the people you talk about regularly, etc.?

https://dandylover1.dreamwidth.org/488.html

Is your profile up-to-date or at all useful?
Yes. It is up-to-date, and there is a lot of information about me there, as well as my Mastodon and Escargot.chat information.

List a few things you think it's important new friends know about you right away:
I have no time for political correctness, lies, or drama. While I always try to be civil during discussions, I share my opinion without reservations. If you are easily offended, please do not add me. I have a very dry and witty sense of humour. There are times when I don't read my friends' page for awhile, and I am trying to change that. I am totally blind, so if you mostly post images, I won't be able to comment on them, as I cannot see them.

You mostly write about:
Entries may consist of anything from short summaries of my day, to surveys, to essays on various topics, to interesting links and quotes that I find, along with my commentary on them. Lately, I have been writing reviews of opera recordings from the 1950's and earlier.

You never or very rarely write about:
Politics, modern celebrities or popular culture, world affairs, fandoms, video games, or mental health.

Is your journal mostly public, locked, or a mix of public and locked?
Public.

Do you use filters for certain types of posts (e.g. fandom-related posts, or posts about sex, or mental health issues, etc.)?
No, but if I post any adult content, I always put it behind a cut and age restrict it.

Your posting frequency (e.g. daily, every few days, weekly, etc.):
It varies, from a few posts in a given week to a few in a single day. Often, I post what I call filler entries toward the end of the month. These are entries posted on one date but for another. I try to post a few entries per week.

Does your journal frequently include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
No, though if you use the old definition of memes as surveys, I do enjoy those. I also post links to things that are related to the discussion in the entry, but they are not spam, nor am I affiliated with any companies.

What do you enjoy most about journaling?
I like sharing my world with others. I also enjoy reading past posts and seeing how much I've changed or remained the same, and perhaps revisiting some interests from my past or broadening my knowledge on various topics.

How often do you read your friends list (e.g. daily, every other day, once a week, etc.)?
I haven't read them in a long time, but now, I plan on doing so at least once a week, but I hope more often.

You really enjoy reading about:
People's daily lives, cooking, gardening, high culture (classical music, opera, fine cuisine, history, art, etc.), scientific discoveries, cats and pets in general, literature, poetry, antique menswear, nature, crafts, and the paranormal.

You have very little interest in reading about:
Mental health issues, fandom, visual things that I can't see i.e. a post of all images with no descriptions, politics, world affairs, video games, abuse, drugs, and constant family drama.

Your thoughts on journals that regularly include any of the following: memes, linkspams, gifs, photos, videos, etc?
I am totally blind, so I couldn't appreciate most of them. I like surveys and links that are on topic or just interesting.

When it comes to comments on your posts, what matters more -- quality or quantity?
Quality. If you just say "hi" or "I like your entry", etc. that is meaningless. At the same time, it does show me that you are reading my journal, so if you haven't commented in awhile, even that would be acceptable.

Do you unfriend people who don't comment much, even if you know they are reading you regularly?
No, unless they don't post regularly and/or we never communicate elsewhere i.e. their journal.

What is your approach when it comes to commenting on other journals?
If I have something to say, I say it. If not, I just read and move on. I do wish there were like buttons here, if only so that we users could demonstrate that we've read something, even if we didn't comment on it.

When you friend someone, but things don't really click, do you unfriend them without warning, or do you send them a note first? How do you prefer to be unfriended in similar circumstances?
I usually unfriend without warning, unless we were friends for a while, or I feel I owe the person an explanation. I would expect the same from friends.

AND LASTLY
Friending memes often ask people to list their favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., but more often than not, those aren't things people actually write about in their journal. Do you have any favourite TV shows, movies, books, etc., that you DO often write about -- not necessarily in a fandom sort of way, just in general?
Not that I can think of at the moment. I'm sure there are some, andmost likely, they are books.

Any final thoughts you'd like to share with potential new friends?
Just so you have an idea of what I like, my hobbies are studying dandyism, Received Pronunciation, the Regency, and the Italian language, reading, writing, cooking, baking, playing cards and dice, and enjoying warm weather. My Other Interests include coffees, teas, antique menswear and accessories (usually Edwardian), chamber and classical music, old opera singers, plants and gardening, crafts, and history and nature documentaries. I love wit, wordplay, and sarcastic humour without vulgarity. I am happily childfree and an atheist.